Do Better Wellness is here to help you…DO BETTER! We all want to be successful in our own right, but we don’t always have access to the things we need in order to gain that success. We are also faced with barriers to success, such as systemic racism or poverty. Do Better Wellness focuses on case management, therapeutic techniques, and coaching/mentoring to assist our clients in getting where they want to be in life. There is no judgment and no pushing. You are the expert in your life and know what is best for you, we are here to support you on your life path and help you reach those goals. If you’re ready to reach your goals and become the success you want to become, email/call/text us and start doing better!
My passion is helping adults and couples/relationships navigate the complexities of being human. Everyone has their own unique story, and my goal is to help each client become the director of their own story by empowering them to take charge of their life.
I strive to create an atmosphere of warmth, safety, and curiosity in therapy. My style tends to be friendly, engaged, and active. We will work together to help you make greater sense of your life and improve how you feel.
I integrate a number of different psychological theories and methods into therapy, and my expertise includes psychoanalytic/psychodynamic, family systems, and mindfulness-based modalities. This means I try to balance addressing present-day challenges with identifying and healing the roots of those challenges, which often involve our formative experiences and relationships.
I feel it is important to consider and explore our internal experience of ourselves and others, as well as identify how our thoughts, feelings, and close relationships might interact in our lives and minds to create both difficulties and opportunities.
Appreciation of each person’s unique cultural context is very important to me, and I have experience working with people of many diverse gender identities, sexual orientations, relationship practices, racial/ethnic backgrounds, abilities, and spiritual beliefs.
I provide psychotherapy to residents of California either in-person (post-pandemic) in Pasadena or online via video therapy. Working with kinky and/or polyamorous and consensually non-monogamous people and relationships is one of my therapeutic specialties, as well as areas of my ongoing research work. To learn more about my work and approach, please visit my website at www.RyanWitherspoon.com
I look forward to seeing what we can discover together.
There are few incidents more distressing than the experience of being judged and rejected by a health care professional we went to for help and understanding. Yet this is typical for those of us in alternative lifestyles and can leave us feeling even more hopeless and suspecting maybe we there is something wrong with who we are and what we do that seems so natural and sustaining in our world. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, with 30 years experience in practice – experienced for even longer in alternative sexual lifestyles including BDSM, swinging and polyamory. I am well-versed in working with LGBT individuals as well.
My reputation is known in the alternative field for many years as one of the few therapists in my area (Philadelphia vicinity) to go to for help. While many people come to me through the grapevine or personal encounters, professional colleagues will refer individuals to me as my knowledge and experience in these areas is well known. I am empathetic and provide unconditional respect; however, I will not hesitate in being frank and direct with you when it would be of benefit.
In addition to understanding and collaborating with people who come to me for help, I am skilled in a wide range of therapies and, as you might expect, professional, while deeply unconventional. I strongly believe that therapy should productive and never be boring. My practice is holistic, creative, and results-oriented.
I help with many life-style problems, including communication and contracting, psycho-education, and general counseling. I also specialize in treating varieties of trauma, anxiety disorders, grief, emotional regulation, and self-esteem issues. The therapies I use include various forms of cognitive-behavioral therapies, Mindfulness, Solution-Focused Therapy, Ericksonian Hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Therapy, EMDR, and traditional methods drawn from the shamanistic/spiritual/magical healing practices of other cultures and systems.
Counseling partners can become a primary focus at times, e.g., dealing with the negative reaction of the more straight member, or problems in an alternative relationship(s). However, I will not meet with anyone who is being forced to attend a session (we all know the keystone word: “consensual”). Ultimately, the best way to decide is to talk with me on the phone, and if you feel encouraged, meet with me to see whether there is a fit.
Research has consistently shown that the connection between the individual and the counselor plays the strongest role in therapeutic outcomes. While I do not take insurance for ethical, business, as well as confidential reasons, my sessions are 2 hours and reasonably priced. However, in many cases I can supply receipts which will result in some reimbursement from your insurance company or flex account.
Do you feel there’s something missing in your relationship, but don’t know where to start in rebuilding your connection? Have you tried to talk to your partner about the issues between you, but feel discouraged in finding answers that bring real and lasting change?
Relationships can become complicated over time as communication breaks down, and arguments become filled with defensiveness and unresolved anger. Whether you find yourselves arguing the same points over and over again, or shutting down and saying nothing out of defeat, you may feel like you’re getting nowhere in improving your overall life together.
Discovering your particular relationship ‘ruts’ can be the beginning to finding common ground and healing the conflicts between you. I can help. Together, we can address issues such as lost intimacy and love, broken trust, infidelity, ineffective communication, imbalance of time together and space apart, boredom, codependency, or issues specific to alternative lifestyles.
I’m a licensed professional counselor and AASECT certified sex therapist specializing in BDSM, kink, polyamory, non-monogamy, sex work, and other alternative lifestyles.