MoonGrove Counselling Swinger Therapist

About Me

As an educated white cis woman born in colonialised Australia, I identify as a polyennic (non-pathologising term for ADHD) queer switch in a multigamous relationship. I have homeowner, car owner, speaking, hearing, and sighted privilege (with the help of glasses). I recognise I have multiple advantages and privilege in many areas. However, I am also part of numerous intersecting minorities. I am a queer multigamous kinky woman who is a proud Swinger in a fat body who has chronic pain conditions, limited physical movement and ability, a zoomie brain, with a complex trauma history from a domestic violence and working class background. 

I work with multiple marginalised minoritsed communities that are often forgotten, misunderstood, overlooked, or sitgmaitised in the Anglo-Saxon overculture in which I and most, not all, of the people I work with live. I have lived experience within many of the marginalised communities I work with and support. 

As an anti-oppressive, feminist informed, people centered, therapist I work hard to dismantle oppressive systems and forms of engaging in therapy with my participants. I work from the basis of you knowing, living and experiencing your life, what works for you and what isn't. I am there to help you navigate areas where you feel stuck, misunderstood, unseen, not accepted, or marginalised with the tools and skills you have already developed and help you expand on those and gain new ones that will help you move forward. I have a background in working with traumatised young people who have experienced long term complex compound trauma. This experience helps me support the people I work with in relationships systems, understand the difference in healthy consensual Kinky, BDSM and Swinging relationships, along with my own complex lived experience knowledge.  

I participate in, live in, and support people in the following marginalised groups and communities –

• Swinger community
• Kink/BDSM community
• Multigamous Relationships
• Chronic Pain Sufferer
• Bisexual Woman

I also support people in these and other marginalised communities –

• Plural Systems
• Trans Communities
• Polyamorous Relationships
• Childhood Domestic Violence survivor
• Childhood Sexual Abuse survivor
• Intimate Partner/ Domestic Violence survivor
• Child and Grandchild Estrangement 

Relationships are a constant work in progress. Predominant relationship therapy models still draw on theories shaped within dominant white, Anglo-centric cultural frameworks—models that often overlook or marginalise Swingers', Kinky or BDSM relationships and other erotic forms of connection. 

What do you know—really—about Swinging or Kink, or BDSM? Have your beliefs, biases, and impressions been shaped more by media stereotypes than by direct contact, connection, or learning? Can you distinguish Swinging from other forms of erotic or relational openness? Do you know how to safely investigate an area of sexual exploration in which you may have no knowledge, experience, or understanding? Are you able to identify any misconceptions, myths, and lies about Swinging, Kink or BDSM relationships?